LMOC 018: Rights

In 1860 there were 31,183,582 people in the United States 3,950,528 were slaves. 8% of American families owned slaves, and 12% of the population was made up of slaves. Over the next five years a brutal war would be fought which by the end of saw these slaves granted their freedom. However, it would be another one hundred years before they were legally treated as equals –even one hundred and fifty years later black Americans are not treated with the same respect as white Americans. The final fight for equal rights can be found in the decade of 1960.

In 1960 alone there were countless marches, protests, and demonstrations to bring attention to the “negro condition”. Police, and angry white people beat many. The Klu Klux Klan threatened lives. There was immense sacrifice made to force a national conversation on equal rights. A hundred years early the Civil War had been fought between brother and brother, in 1960 a different war was being fought between blacks and whites: a war for equality. A war for rights.

January 21, 2017, over three million people marched across the United States to protest the Presidency of Donald Trump. This was the largest protest in the history of the United States, and the marchers in D.C alone outnumbered those who attended the inauguration of the 45th President. Clearly the sheer numbers are enough to sway the country towards dumping Donald Trump as president. However, this is not how change works. Here is a comparison of Ashley Judd’s speech and one of Malcolm X’s more controversial speeches:

Our pussies ain’t for grabbin’. They are for reminding you that our walls are stronger than America’s ever will be — our pussies are for our pleasure, they are for birthing new generations of filthy, vulgar, nasty, proud — Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh, you name it — for new generations for nasty women — so if you, a nasty woman or you love one who is, let me her you say, “Hell, yeah! Hell, yeah! Hell, yeah!”

-Ashley Judd

“We’ve got to change our own minds about each other. We have to see each other with new eyes. We have to see each other as brothers and sisters. We have to come together with warmth so we can develop unity and harmony that’s necessary to get this problem solved ourselves.”

Malcolm X

Women are treated less equally then men. They enjoy the same legal status, but like black Americans they are treated inferior when it comes to rights. The Women’s March had a chance to start an avalanche of change for women, but came crashing down with its lack of vision and discipline. Many black men and women spent unjust time in jail, or at the opposite end of a billy club for their belief that they should be treated as an equal. No women is going to suffer that kind of physical violence for their cry to equality, but they will need to make sacrifices, and it is clear that the events of January 21st were just angry people ceasing an opportunity.





LMOC 017

Last year I expended much energy on police brutality. While this is a necessary conversation for us to be having, another one of far greater importance awaits. Throughout this year we will focus on domestic violence, but more specifically relationship violence –yes, I just coined this phrase. Domestic violence is a term used by police and courts to characterize, and separate, violence from purely physical assault leading up to murder. However, you don’t have to beat your spouse, or significant other, to commit domestic violence. Emotional and verbal abuse are just as damaging, if not more so. Bruises heal: emotional wounds, and scars to the human psychosis do not.

Our journey through the mire of relationship violence begins with snippets of my own story. Gasp! A man has experience with violence, blasphemy. This is a women’s topic. In a 12-month study by the CDC over 40% of victims of severe physical violence are men. According to another study nearly the exact same amount of women emotionally abuse as men. Please, place you hand underneath your jaw and lift up, this way we can continue. At 6’ 4” 200lbs I’m more physically imposing than most, so I have not experienced physical violence. However, I did spend upwards to two years in an emotionally abusive relationship. This is not shocking as I grew up in a household with an emotionally abusive father –in all fairness, he has greatly matured in this area, and indeed only learned these traits from his own father whom we must assume learned him from his.

My regular followers know that from this point onward they are only going to get facts and statistics that support my argument. The personal stories are inside my podcast. The 2010 study by the CDC discovered that 5,365,000 men compared to 4,741,000 women had been subject to physical violence by an intimate partner. We should take a moment to discuss why physical violence is unacceptable to our society. Most abhor the use of violence because it often preys upon the weak. This is the very reason women receive more attention, as they are thought of being incapable of defending themselves. Yet, to carry this argument out logically would mean that physical duels between two equally matched parties would be a humane way to settle arguments. Though, the consensus is that we are more advanced –or, if you allow, evolved. Physical force is a last resort to settle disagreements. In a relationship the resort to physical violence is unnecessary, barbaric, and convincingly ineffective. However, physical violence does not appear to be the number one weapon.

Psychological abuse as defined by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence “is caused by verbal abuse, acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics.” If this sounds like a relationship you are in then you should get out immediately. Often the consequence of jail for beating someone is enough to deter the action. However, it becomes increasingly more difficult to accuse someone of psychological abuse when the primary evidence is a mind, thus you must rely on testimony. It is also much easier to psychologically abuse and condition your victim to believe you are always in the right. This may be why “48.5% of women and 48.8% of men have experienced at least one psychologically aggressive behavior by an intimate partner.” That statistic, again from National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is staggering. It is virtually dead even between men and women who experience psychological abuse in an intimate relationship.

We are out of time to discuss this topic, and will return to it in the future. There are steps that can be taken to help fix this problem. Relationship Violence is potentially the biggest human rights abuse issue we face today. Thanks to non-profits and brave women and men the conversation has begun to reach the ears of more and more people. The task is large, but not insurmountable. If you believe you are in a relationship of violence I encourage you to get out, I have listed three resources to aid you:


  1. http://www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-friends-and-family/
  2. https://www.socialworkhelper.com/2015/01/05/domesticshelters-org-new-resource-experiencing-domestic-violence/
  3. http://www.1800runaway.org/2016/10/domestic-violence-resources-get-help-help-others/