LMOC 018: Rights

In 1860 there were 31,183,582 people in the United States 3,950,528 were slaves. 8% of American families owned slaves, and 12% of the population was made up of slaves. Over the next five years a brutal war would be fought which by the end of saw these slaves granted their freedom. However, it would be another one hundred years before they were legally treated as equals –even one hundred and fifty years later black Americans are not treated with the same respect as white Americans. The final fight for equal rights can be found in the decade of 1960.

In 1960 alone there were countless marches, protests, and demonstrations to bring attention to the “negro condition”. Police, and angry white people beat many. The Klu Klux Klan threatened lives. There was immense sacrifice made to force a national conversation on equal rights. A hundred years early the Civil War had been fought between brother and brother, in 1960 a different war was being fought between blacks and whites: a war for equality. A war for rights.

January 21, 2017, over three million people marched across the United States to protest the Presidency of Donald Trump. This was the largest protest in the history of the United States, and the marchers in D.C alone outnumbered those who attended the inauguration of the 45th President. Clearly the sheer numbers are enough to sway the country towards dumping Donald Trump as president. However, this is not how change works. Here is a comparison of Ashley Judd’s speech and one of Malcolm X’s more controversial speeches:

Our pussies ain’t for grabbin’. They are for reminding you that our walls are stronger than America’s ever will be — our pussies are for our pleasure, they are for birthing new generations of filthy, vulgar, nasty, proud — Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh, you name it — for new generations for nasty women — so if you, a nasty woman or you love one who is, let me her you say, “Hell, yeah! Hell, yeah! Hell, yeah!”

-Ashley Judd

“We’ve got to change our own minds about each other. We have to see each other with new eyes. We have to see each other as brothers and sisters. We have to come together with warmth so we can develop unity and harmony that’s necessary to get this problem solved ourselves.”

Malcolm X

Women are treated less equally then men. They enjoy the same legal status, but like black Americans they are treated inferior when it comes to rights. The Women’s March had a chance to start an avalanche of change for women, but came crashing down with its lack of vision and discipline. Many black men and women spent unjust time in jail, or at the opposite end of a billy club for their belief that they should be treated as an equal. No women is going to suffer that kind of physical violence for their cry to equality, but they will need to make sacrifices, and it is clear that the events of January 21st were just angry people ceasing an opportunity.





Rape Culture: America

I have heard more than a few people deny the existence of a rape culture in America. They are wrong. Bill Cosby is on trail for repeated rape. Donald J. Trump and Billy Bush joke about rape as if it were the norm. When you delve into the statistics: rape culture, exists.

Rape Statistics in America:

College: 1 in 5 women; 1 in 16 men.

Before and after college: 1 in 5 women; 1 in 71 men

If you go to college as a women you have the same chance of being raped as if you do not go, and if you are a man you are more likely to be raped going to college than not: colleges are a sanctuary for rape.

As a woman no matter where you are there is a 20% chance you’ll be raped. 32, 880, 744 women have been or will be raped. If you have five daughters, one will be raped. If you have two daughters, your sister has two daughters, and your brother has one: either your child or niece will be raped. There is a 90% chance a family member will be the perpetuator.

Plan on someone you know raping someone you know.

54% of victims are 18-34. The majority of people are raped before they are 30. Victims under the age of 18 are 66% more likely to be between the ages of 12-17. 82% of those are young girls.

However, despite all the talk of college rape and celebrity rape, the greatest threat of rape is for Native Americans: two times more rape is committed to their race than to any other race. A stranger commits 41% of these rapes.



The short answer, we do not know. Rape is often viewed as the victim’s fault. The most common phrase found inside articles is this, She wanted it.” A variation, “She wanted it, she just didn’t know it.”

Rape is often sexualized. After all, the act is a sexual one by nature. However, we know men have control over their sexual desires, as do women. So, we can rule horniness out of the equation.

Most rape is a control and domination issue. It grows from insecurity, or rejection. Men are physically more powerful than women; they take what they want physically so that they are not rejected (women are more emotionally powerful than men, they take what they want using emotional manipulation).

The bottom line, we do not know. This is a problem. If you do not know why you can’t fully solve an issue.


The video of Donald Trump talking about grabbing women by the pussy while Billy Bush giggles in the background is the reason I pushed this topic earlier than I wanted. However, this video shows the culture we exist in: rape is a fact of life. Trump is wrong, men in locker rooms do not talk like this: if anything there is more gay talk than straight talk. Trump was advocating sexual assault because he is famous. Bill Cosby is on trial for sexually assaulting a plethora of women.

If you are any race other than American Indian someone you know will most likely rape you. This should be a startling realization. Rape from someone you know means they desire you and want to take what you can offer them: sex. Rape from someone you don’t know means they view you as inferior to them and will take something you can offer them no matter what: sex. This tells us that the problem is not a lack of fear for the consequences, but a lack of knowledge.

Shocking Attitudes to Rape in South Africa is eye opening. The cavalier way in which men speak of rape and how their victims did want to give them sex, or wanted it, so they took it is exactly the problem with a rape culture (this article interviewed men from South Africa: we are looking at America, but do not think rape is confined to the shores of the United States. The entire world has a rape culture).

We need better education on the topic. Our children need to understand that sex is not as important as society makes it, but is not any less valuable than a quick release of pleasure. They must attach a value that rises above their own self worth and provides something greater. Sex education should not only be about condoms, STD’s, and avoiding pregnancy: it should teach that for human beings sex transcends procreation and pleasure.


  1. http://news.sky.com/story/shocking-attitudes-to-rape-in-south-africa-10433820
  2. http://jezebel.com/5929544/rapists-explain-themselves-on-reddit-and-we-should-listen
  3. http://well.wvu.edu/articles/rape_myths_and_facts
  4. http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/sports/2003-12-21-athletes-sexual-assault_x.htm
  5. https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens
  6. https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
  7. http://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/publications_nsvrc_factsheet_media-packet_statistics-about-sexual-violence_0.pdf

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou Off the Cuff 02

#maybehedoesnthityou is trending on Twitter. This hashtag brings awareness to emotional abuse in relationships towards women. Is this an accurate depiction of the full story?


  1. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3876290/
  2. http://www.saveservices.org/2012/02/cdc-study-more-men-than-women-victims-of-partner-abuse/
  3. http://shrink4men.com/services/
  4. http://acculturated.com/women-who-emotionally-abuse-men/